The foundation poured, the groundwork laid,
Well before you left.
Being stripped of parental authority,
Is the worst kind of theft.
Yelling orders at the children,
Your abuser has the upper hand,
Powerless you stand and watch,
As they heed his every command.
He turns your children against you,
Until you can hardly cope.
Your mother’s love, says don’t give up,
You hang onto your hope.
You finally leave, get custody.
The children are angry and sad.
You listen to their endless chant,
“We want to live with dad!”
And everything that happens,
In your home and in your life,
Is reported and distorted, though
You’re no longer their father’s wife.
The children devour the twisted spin,
He puts on your every word,
Your life becomes hell, as they rebel,
The entire situation absurd!
He convinces the children,
A break from you,
Is a well deserved vacation.
But what they are experiencing,
Is called “Parental Alienation.”
He says, “You’ll get to see the kids.”
The days, the weeks crawl by.
And it becomes apparent,
On his word you can’t rely.
What if it takes years,
Before they even heal from this pain?
Will it forever affect your relationship?
Your fears drive you insane.
Your only hope is that the court,
Will figure it all out.
But in the meantime your heart aches,
Your head is full of doubt.
You spend all your time “Nesting”,
Readying your home,
For when your children come back,
But for now you’re all alone.
While in a store,
A small voice, shouts out for his “Mom”,
Your emotions soar, you turn to look,
Trying to remain calm.
This occurs so frequently,
It’s such a mental game,
You try to resist answering back,
Calling out your child’s name.
Of course it’s not your child,
And you begin to cry.
How could he keep your children from you?
And the endless question, why?
The thought that keeps on churning,
Your deepest, darkest fear,
You’ll never see your children again,
And they won’t even care.
You can’t stop thinking of them,
You lie awake in bed,
Are they happy, safe and cared for?
Are they healthy and well fed?
If you’ve never been there,
It’s so hard to explain,
Estranged from your own children,
Yet in your heart they still remain.
And yet it is so common,
It happens everyday,
Using innocent children,
For control, to get his way.
The damage to the children,
Runs so very deep,
Pains them for a lifetime,
Into their words and actions it will creep.
So if you are a parent,
Going through divorce,
Hear my words, your child’s life,
Needs a stable, loving course.
“Children need the love of BOTH parents.”
This is tried and true,
Children deserve nothing less,
Than the BEST of BOTH OF YOU!